Please don't forget to hug your parents...
What was working out to be a good few days in the NAMN family has taken a sudden and tragic turn for the worse. One of our own lost his mother today (10/17/2005), and we are all grieving with him. While I will not mention which contributor I am referring to, instead I would like to eulogize parents in general.
I am fortunate to have my mother. While our relationship may not be perfect, (who's really is?) I can't imagine that I would change it. She's always been someone I could rely upon to provide love and support, and I hope she's around for a long, long time.
However, I learned some things from her strained relationship with her father.
First, adults seem to find common ground in children. My grandfather was a great and mostly positive influence on my life, and it wasn't until after he passed that I realized how much my mother and grandfather may have been working out their earlier differences through me. I don't think they ever fully reconciled, but that's the other thing they taught me. Parents and children are not perfect people, thus many mistakes are made, but one mistake that needn't be made is guilt over things said or left unsaid. Unfortunately, I never heeded that lesson with my own father, from whom I was completely estranged when I received word that he was in an irreversible coma.
I doubt this post will ease my dear friend's grief over his loss, if he even reads this; however, I would be glad to know that my words changed someone else's life a little. Please say a prayer for my friend and his family.